Well after some thought, i have been realizeing what i think is wrong with me and Amelia right now.
NO things arent bad or anything, but at the same time, i have talked alot about how sometimes i just feel like i do alot and so on and so forth.
Well i started to realize that Amelia isnt a "go get um" type of woman.
Well what i mean is this. For me what makes a woman/wife/mom is someone who is able to do when things need to be done.
I realize that i spend alot of time thinking about Amelia, i think about what she needs to eat, where she needs to go, how things need to happen, all of these things being focused on Amelia.
When things need to be done, i do them, not only because they need to be done, but because it makes things easier for her in the long run.
I follow the Golden Rule, and I belive that you treat others how you want to be treated.
However i dont think Amelia is in that stage of the relationship yet. I think its a combination of her ex boyfreind mixed with school.
To me being a woman/man is about takeing responsibility for the ones you love and care about, and doing for them to make things easier and better.
Weather its takeing out the trash because you see it could be done, washing a few dishes, cooking a meal, getting a glass of water, cleaning something, or whatever else that seems to make things easier on Amelia i do for her. But i just dont think she is at that point just as of yet, and i belive thats why i feel so overwhelmed at times.
I dont ask Amelia to do things, if i see she is hungry, i get her something to eat, if i see dishes need to be washed, i wash them, if i see she is tired, i give her a massage, her room was dirty, i cleaned it, i buy the food and cook it to and clean the kitchen, i wash her cloths, but i dont ask "Amelia do you need me to do X?"
Amelia seems to have to feel that she needs to "ask" to do something, however i belive that if you are asking something like "do you need help with that" you really dont WANT to help unless you HAVE to, however when it comes to Amelia, if i see she needs help, i dont ask and wait for permission, i just help, if she doesnt need it she will tell me then.
Amelia wants to be walked through what i want and need over and over again instead of takeing matters in her own hands because she sees that it can be done, and honestly i hope its something that changes over the days/months/years.
I just have to say this to woman here on the site. The way that "Most" men (and yea i know every woman on here, they will say that their man is diffrent, but whatever) but anyways, "most" men usually look for a woman to do for them as they are doing for you.
From what i have seen, Men do want to be told "i love you" and all that good stuff, but most of the time what really makes a man feel good, is when their woman helps them and does stuff for them.
And no im not talking about chocolates and candy and stuff like that, men just want alittle help everyonce and a while, but the problem is that men can be to proud sometimes, so men need a woman who will just get up and give the help, instead of haveing to tell their woman over and over again to help.
If he is a man that is doing for you and putting in alot of time and effort to make you happy, and you SEE this, then do for him, dont ask, just do because you want to do for him like he does for you. If you see him cooking (like i do alot) dont "ask" him if you can help, tell him you are going to help, if you see him carrying alot of stuff that you can help with, dont "ask" him to help, grab something, if you see that he may be tired give him a massage, if he has cooked a quite a few times, then cook one day for him, do things to make him happy just as he does for you, but you dont need to ASK, just DO IT!
And again, im NOT talking about sexist things like "getting in the kitchen" or something like that, nono, im just saying that its nice when a woman takes charge and does what needs to be done...
But again, i think its because of school and her ex, she has told me that when she gets out of school things will change, but i guess ill see.
