ok can any1 on gunzfactor other than me and like 2 other people go make a comment without writing a novel?
and to what firegod said: sorta like u, if some1 gets me mad, i try not to think about how much better it would be if i ripped their heart out, but i do anyway. damit im the most hated kid in my school cause something that happened on halloween!
No but if its a relationship like boyfriend/girlfriend kind of thing, it does. NO matter how many times I hear it, looks dont matter blah blah blah, you know it does. You go for the personality but it helps to be physically attracted to someone also.
People say populartiy/money/power doesn't matter, thats true. Those are material things that you can change, but looks and personality are more than that.
Ok I'm going to be honest, lets say I saw you and was like man shes pretty and shes playing video games? what? , I'm going to go talk to her. And blah blah we talk and I'm thinking wow shes got a cool personality too and SHE GAMES or what not. Yeah that whole personality thing is what would keep me coming too you but as a first impression you go by appearance, your first impression of someone is how they look, you infer/hope they are a certain way. For example, you see a guy not literally me but this is me in this example, My hairs all done, wearing a blazer nicely dressed. Talks with an extensive vocabulary and is playing video games. I must be a gamer, a metrosexual/gay (*though I'm not gay), umm apparently somewhat smart, possibly rich, maybe stuck up with himself maybe a lil cocky, polite, etc. And thats what is going to attract you to someone that impression those assumptions are going to bring you to the person, not personality because you have no clue on what it is.
And if I have a horrid personality, I'm mean,closedminded, women abuser etc. than you're not going to come back but lets say I'm outgoing, nice, funny, open minded etc. and thats what you like in a person you're going to stick with him.
Also, if someone doesn't look anything like what you want to believe or is completely repulsive doesn't mean they don't have an amazing personality. The thing is though, you would not talk to them or attempt to meet them most likely if you didn't like what you see generally and will never uncover that personality. And maybe
you do talk to those people and they have horrid personalitys so you don't make anymore attempts for them. But whatever, not like you wanted to actually read all my views.
So infact looks/first impression does have affects on relationships.
Yeah and I know we wern't even talking about relationships and I went on a long rant but whatever I'm in the mood to talk about it.
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Oh yeah and if you were hotter you may get more people asking you to be friends/ have more confidence to go out to ask to be someones friend but it doesn't mean everyone thats coming to you is going to be the friend you're looking for
No actually, being ME sucks way more than being you, and i can prove it with ease if you want me to.
anyway
Sadly i feel the same way as you
personaly i try to be the best that i can be to others, i try to be respectfull and in alot of ways as nice as i can be.
But to be completly honest, from teh way my life has been, i belive people (girls especially) look at me and are instantly turned off to any sort of relationship. They see that im fat and its over, i swear it.
Plus im a weird character, i mean im a black guy who acts white, im fat, and i talk a grip load (as you can see), and noone seems to understand much of what i say.
So yea, i totally feel where you commin from.
To be completely honest with you, i dont see why you would have a problem with getting freinds, you seem like a nice person from what i can see, and your not a ugly woman at all, so what could the problem possibly be?
If people are looking at you for just looks, then they arent cool people, and you probalby just need to stray away from people lik that.
I know i talk alot, but i hope ive helped you realize that you could be me and it could be worse, so be happy
Gahhh... In the US, it seems that needs to be the case. But for people that are true, there are a few of us in the US that are true... looks don't define the friendship. As said before, it is the personality. If having nice looks define a friendship, then it is false.
No but to some people it does like those shallow ones. A friend cannot only like you for how you look because that is just the lust the peoples heart.... it is actually the personality of a person that attracts friends.
or what not. Yeah that whole personality thing is what would keep me coming too you but as a first impression you go by appearance, your first impression of someone is how they look, you infer/hope they are a certain way. For example, you see a guy not literally me but this is me in this example, My hairs all done, wearing a blazer nicely dressed. Talks with an extensive vocabulary and is playing video games. I must be a gamer, a metrosexual/gay (*though I'm not gay), umm apparently somewhat smart, possibly rich, maybe stuck up with himself maybe a lil cocky, polite, etc. And thats what is going to attract you to someone that impression those assumptions are going to bring you to the person, not personality because you have no clue on what it is.
